I saw Dave Matthews Band last weekend at the Greek Theater in Berkeley.
It's crazy because Dave Matthews has been one of my all time favorite band for years and this was the first time I saw him live.
It was awesome. What else can I say? This isn't going to be a Dave Matthews Band review.
But I will say that I had an epiphany while watching Dave Matthews.
You see, Music is my church.
I have a lot of "ah-ha" moments while dancing and listening to good music.
I was watching how much fun Dave was having with his boys on stage.. jammin, dancing, getting into the music and I thought about how much men love to hang out with other guys and do stuff together.
I realized that men do this in so many ways and really.. most men don't really want women doing the stuff with them. I don't mean that men don't want women watching them do what they do.. but most men, like to do their thing with the guys and the guys alone: whether it's mountain biking, playing in a band, sailing, drinking, surfing... No women around: Just the guys.
I've heard several of my friend's husbands and boyfriends tell me lately: "You know, I don't really want my girlfriend/wife to (fill in the blank) Surf, Bike, Sail with me. I like to do my thing and have her there when I come home".
Interesting.
I think so many women try to insert themselves into their man's space.. where he really just wants to do his thing. Alone or with the guys..
and I realize that it's probably not a smart thing to do.
In essence women get together and do the same thing.. but we do it by talking. We don't want a man to hear our chittery chattery discussions.. we enter into our own little world and work it all out.
Men on the other hand, they just want to play.
Let em do their thing, I say!
I don't necessarily think it's a gender thing but a friend vs. lover thing. I have mostly guy friend and am often included in the "play" activities. It's no problem that I am a female friend. But if I were a girlfriend, then the lines are blurred and somehow people are uncomfortable with that. Doesn't mean we don't have fun with our partners, or at least we should be. My man and I have a blast and it's an important part of our relationship.
Posted by: Brirock | September 17, 2008 at 01:00 PM